What Does the Aries Wild Woman Really Want?

I came across a children’s story by Gwen Gross in a book titled Knights of the Round Table when my youngest son was in third grade. He is now in his 30’s so this was many years ago. We both loved the story and I found it was a wonderful description of what the Aries Wild Woman wants most…actually it fits in many ways for most women but most especially the Aries Wild Woman.

Lady Ragnell
In this story King Arthur and Sir Gawain encounter “Sir Malger of the Deadly Axe.” Sir Malger challenges King Arthur with a riddle. Arthur’s life depends upon him discovering the correct answer to this question, “What is it that women want most?”

Arthur has seven days to find the answer, so he and Gawain spend this time asking every woman they meet what they want most. The answers they receive are varied including beauty, love, wisdom, a partner, children, riches, adventure, and truth. Somehow Arthur knows none of these are the correct answer to the riddle.

On the seventh day Arthur and Gawain are returning to Sir Malger’s castle feeling discouraged. Then an old woman calls to them. She is horrible to see. Her skin is wrinkled and yellow, her teeth are jagged and she has a patch over one eye. She tells Arthur and Gawain she is Lady Ragnell and she knows the answer to the riddle.

However, before sharing the answer Arthur must promise her marriage to one of his knights. Desperate to save his king,
Gawain agrees to marry her. Lady Ragnell answers the riddle by saying;

“What women want most is to have their own way!

Arthur’s life is spared and Gawain marries Lady Ragnell. On their wedding night, Lady Ragnell asks Gawain to kiss her. He closes his eyes and gently kisses her and when he opens his eyes the most beautiful woman he has ever seen is sitting before him. He asks her who she is and she tells him she is Lady Ragnell and what he sees now is her TRUE  self.

Sir Malger had placed her under an evil spell and Gawain had partially freed her from the spell by marrying her and then kissing her. However, she tells Gawain to choose how he wants her to appear as she must return to her former horrible look either by day or by night according to his choice.

Sir Gawain thinks about this and realizes that he cannot make this choice for her as she is the one who has to live it. He tells her she must choose for herself. By giving the choice back to Lady Ragnell Gawain freed her from the rest of the evil spell. Remember the riddle?

By letting her choose he had given her what a woman wants most. Her own way, her own choice, the ability to determine what is best for her!

Lady Ragnell told Sir Gawain, “Now you have broken the spell forever! I need never take that monster shape again. I can be my true self – day, night, and always!”

Indeed, what the Aries woman most wants is to have her own way, so she can remember and be her true self. Our culture has defined certain roles for women and imposed those roles upon them, so it is difficult for women to remember what their own way is and how to live from their true authentic self.

During the Venus in Aries cycle (in 2025 this cycles includes a blend of Aries and Pisces) is an opportunity for the feminine principle to notice the ways she gives away her sense of self-knowing and self-direction, and then fully reclaim those parts of herself.

It is easier for the young women growing up now as the old definitions are changing. When my own Venus in Aries daughter was two years old, she began teaching me about these mysteries. If I offered to help her get dressed she would take a deep breath, make herself as tall as possible, and with all the authority and strength she could muster she would shout “I do it myself” or “I do it my way.”

Now age 40 (just past her 5th synodic Venus return) she is more than ever doing it herself and doing it her way with courage and confidence. She is a fierce warrior ready to uphold and defend the cosmic order of life at any moment. She is committed to being an athlete and helping others who desire it – to get and stay fit.

At age 24 (her 3rd Venus return) she was committed to protecting our beautiful planet working with Green Peace and other environmental causes. Though she still deeply cares for the planet her focus now is on personal fitness.

It is wonderful to witness a freer more conscious awareness of this Aries energy showing up in our young women, because we truly need healthy feminine (and masculine) expressions of this energy to restore and maintain the natural order of life.

The heliacal rise of Venus near the Spring Equinox was viewed by the ancient Sumerians as the Venus cycle worthy of ceremonailly celebrating as a culture every eight years. Venus rose in Aries on April 8, 1993 and then again April 5, 2001, April 3, 2009, March 31, 2017 and currently on either March 23, 2025 in Aries for some locations or March 29 in Pisces for most locations. One way the Sumerians honored this 8 year Venus cycle was to ceremonially re-enact the Inanna story, symbolizing the mythic representation of Venus and her journey through the sky.

It is up to us to be sure we have our own way now to further the healthy return of the Wild Warrior Woman as a vital expression of the Solar Feminine into the collective consciousness. There has never been a more important time for remembering and working with the Venus Cycle and her mysteries of death, resurrection, rebirth and ascension, all contained within the story of Inanna.

We would love to have you join us for our current Venus Alchemy Ceremonial journey celebrating and intentionally engaging each step of the Venus Cycle. These classes have been life changing for many and you can join at any time.

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